A Guide to Family Planning

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"The most loving things you can do for your children is before you have them. You are choosing their parents, their educational levels, and even their economic status. It may not seem fair but you are gifted with creation so you must be strategic." Although I heard this statement at the age of 23, I have thought similarly since the age of sixteen.

At the age of 22 I began writing a book for myself and the younger ladies in my family. In one section I wrote "Wealth-building and security for children is vital. In present day society, resources for children is also vital. High quality schools. Immersive and cultural experiences. Extracurricular activities. Safe and community/family-oriented neighborhoods. Marrying a high quality man who can provide your children these resources is essential."

I specified marriage prior to having children because marriage is not just an union of love. Marriage is a political tool used to circulate wealth, history, tradition, education, and resources. Marriage strengthens community by encouraging solid connections between people, which creates a strong social fabric. When people commit to supporting one another, it creates stability, not only for the two getting married, but for the broader community. At weddings the community gathers together to promise to hold the married couple accountable to one another and guard them against any forces that might undermine their union. This creates a bond and sense of purpose among not just the couple, but the community as well. 

Studies find that children from cohabitating households are at more of a disadvantage: “Children born to cohabiting parents [have] less healthy household environments than those born to married parents. Children with cohabiting parents may experience more parental stress, more maternal depression, less social and economic support from fathers or other extended family members and more parental conflict than those with married parents.” Cohabiting parents have twice the breakup rate than that of married parents before children reach the age of twelve.

Children from households in which their parents are married are healthier and happier because they know their parents are committed to one another and to themselves. Healthy marriages provides children with the sense of security and stability they need for healthy development. In addition, being a role model for commitment and faith in your loved one sets a good example for the next generation.

Healthy marriages and appropriate resources are not the only methods of family planning. There are various practices of family planning Prestige School of Protocol recommends, which will be discussed among private society members. Another family planning practice our school recommends is carrier screening.

Genetic screening tests can detect carriers for an inherited condition even though a woman and her partner do not have a family history of the condition. Carrier screening is a type of genetic test that tells us if we carry a gene for certain genetic disorders. When the screening is done, it allows you to discover your chances of having a child with a genetic disorder. While carrier screening can be done during pregnancy, Prestige School of Protocol recommends having carrier screening before having children (now). Getting tested before pregnancy gives you a greater range of options and more time to make decisions.

"In targeted carrier screening, you are tested for disorders based on your ethnicity or family history. If you belong to an ethnic group or race that has a high rate of carriers for a specific genetic disorder, carrier screening for these disorders may be recommended. This also is called ethnic-based carrier screening. If you have a family history of a specific disorder, screening for that disorder may be recommended, regardless of your race or ethnicity," The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists.

Ladies, start family and future planning now---before you decide to settle down or get older. Get your life insurance, your genes tested, blood drawn, build a health journey, and ask your family members of health stories. Document and keep records for yourself. Do you do any of this? Let us know in the comments below.

****Prestige School of Protocol does not provide medical advice.

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